Brown Girl Self-Care

I've been on a bit of a summer break but I'll be back next Monday with a fresh episode!! In this replay episode I'm giving you a four question exercise you can begin using IMMEDIATELY in times of feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities and challenges straight from the book How To Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Happy Monday. In today's episode I'm sharing a little revelation I had while shopping at Costco recently. I have done some major healing in the last few years, but I still get disregulated. It's ok to not be perfect and it's ok to take a breath, raise your hand and ask for/receive help. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey Beautiful Brown Girl! Have you experienced moments of feeling...off, but don't understand why or how you got to that place? I definitely have which is why I do my best to check-in with myself everyday. Today I'm sharing six questions to start asking yourself daily or as needed. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

How can you begin to embody what it means to take up space? As a Black woman who worked in corporate America I can tell you that there were many, many times that I bit my tongue or hid my brilliance and based on conversations I've had, I am not the only one. How do we embrace our value and begin to take up the space we rightfully deserve? Today I'm sharing three specific ways: 1. Honor your value 2. Own your words 3. Fill the space with your presence Also, a bonus one is that everything we do doesn't warrant an apology (like I used to believe). Press play on this episode to listen and be sure to share with someone that needs to hear todays message. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Did you know that you can deepen your self-care practice by implementing the 4 S's? Silence, solitude, surrender and stillness can be used separately or collectively and don't have to be "perfected" in order to be of benefit. When your spirit feels dry and in need of moisturizing, it's likely in need of one of the 4 S's. Join Me On Youtube! Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever woken up completely drained, barely could manage work so blamed yourself for not being "productive enough"? In this episode, we’re unpacking the dangerous lie that rest has to be earned and why so many of us confuse emotional and physical exhaustion with laziness. If you’ve been forcing yourself to function through burnout, overstimulation, or stress just to keep up with a routine, this episode is your invitation to drop the guilt, lower the bar, and give yourself grace. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Become a private podcast subscriber to unlock new episodes here -> Click Here To Subscribe Hey sis, welcome back to the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast — the space where we honor our humanity and choose ourselves, unapologetically. This week, we're talking about these jobs, okay? I saw a post on social media from a young woman who started a new job, and just a week or two in, a better opportunity came out of nowhere — more money, better vibes — and she took it. But then she felt guilty about it. The guilt is not random. It's rooted in how we've been conditioned to be loyal, to people-please, to always make sure they know how grateful we are. Here's what I want you to remember: These jobs are not loyal to you. They will let you go without a second thought if it serves the bottom line. You don't owe them two weeks, an apology, or an explanation. Giving them that is classy, not required. More money = more breathing room. it's about your peace, safety, and getting out of survival mode. Choosing yourself is an act of self-preservation. Full stop. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Ready to take this deeper? Join the private feed on RedCircle to get instant access to the exclusive 5-day audio series, Stop Fighting for the Bare Minimum <-- Nobody warns you about the silence that comes after you decide you’re done settling. When you stop chasing an opportunity, a relationship, or a dynamic that required you to shrink, you're left with an empty room. And if you aren't grounded in that quiet, panic sets in—and the bare minimum starts looking real comfortable again. In this episode, we’re unpacking what it actually takes to sit in the space between without rushing to fill the void with the first low-standard thing that comes along. In this episode, we cover: Why the quiet space after walking away feels so uncomfortable and why your mind misinterprets peace as loss. How to stop bargaining with your standards when anxiety tells you to settle. Reclaiming the buffer zone so your nervous system can adjust to a higher baseline. NEXT STEPS & RESOURCES: Get the 5-Day Subscriber Series: Stop negotiating your worth and hold your ground. Click here to unlock the private feed on RedCircle: Click Here To Subscribe Connect & Share: Loved this episode? Take a screenshot, tag me on social media, and share it with someone who needs to protect their space today. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What does your mental health and well-being capacity actually look like right now? In this episode, Bre introduces the concept of the Self-Care Cup: a powerful framework for measuring your capacity for healing, joy, and resilience. Tune in as Bre breaks down the 4 distinct stages of the Self-Care Cup, helps you identify exactly where you currently stand, and shares the practical steps needed to move toward a life of genuine overflow. The 4 Stages of Your Self-Care Cup: Which One Are You? 1. No Cup at All (Survival Mode) The Vibe: You’re at rock bottom, completely depleted, and just trying to survive. Whether it’s a mental health crisis, financial strain, or chronic illness, you simply don’t have the capacity to hold onto goodness right now. What you need most: Immediate support. Reach out to a therapist, a trusted friend, or look into your company's EAP resources. 2. A Cup with Holes (The Leak) The Vibe: You’re out of immediate survival mode, but your energy is constantly draining. Energy vampires, poor boundaries, unresolved grief, or financial stressors are secretly bleeding you dry. What you need most: Radical honesty. It’s time to audit your life, locate the leaks, and start patching them. 3. A Small "Baby" Cup (The Limited Reserve) The Vibe: The holes are patched and survival mode is behind you, but your capacity is still quite small. If you are a chronic over-giver, you are at high risk of accidentally draining this delicate boundary. What you need most: Protection. You can share your energy, but you must protect your baseline fiercely. 4. A Large, Overflowing Cup (The Sweet Spot) The Vibe: This is the ultimate goal. You are thriving, full of vitality, and giving generously to others strictly from your overflow, never from your well. What you need most: Maintenance. Keep doing what you're doing through consistency, boundaries, healthy habits, and deep self-trust. Connect with the Show Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Our safety matters. Period. This episode is a reminder to protect yourself, know your squad, and stay aware of your surroundings. Inspired by the untimely passing of Nolan, this conversation wasn't something I could hold back. Then I'm switching gears into something deeply personal - the in-between place of healing. If you've been doing the work and wondering why it's still taking so long, this one is for you. ✨ In this episode: Safety tips every Black woman needs to hear Why your healing timeline is valid — even when it feels slow • • The body keeps the score — and what to do about it Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Are you waiting for a radical sign to finally step into the version of yourself you’ve always imagined? I'm breaking down why that "permission" you’re looking for isn’t coming. Spoiler alert - it's because you are already her. Key Moments: The Radical Sign Trap: Why waiting for the stars to align is actually a form of procrastination. Activation vs. Achievement: You don't become "her" once you reach the goal; you reach the goal by activating "her" right now. The "Angela Bassett Arms" Philosophy: Acting as if you already have the discipline of your ideal self. Claiming the Identity: Moving from "thinking about it" to "being it." Join the Challenge: Follow the daily 90-day visibility journey visually on the Brown Girl Self-Care YouTube Channel. Reflect: What is one habit of your "higher self" that you can activate today? Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When plans fall apart or life throws a curveball, what is the very first thing that starts spinning in your head? For most of us, the shock is immediately followed by a wave of self-attack: “I should have known better. I should have tried harder. I should have done things differently.” In this episode, lets talk about the "should" spiral and how we abandon our internal authority when things go south. True alignment and self-trust don't come from doing more; they come from choosing to be more. I'm sharing a personal story about a moment my own intuition loudly yelled, "F that noise,"* and why reclaiming your wisdom means stepping out of the frantic hustle and creating a safe space for the part of you that is just terrified of making a mistake. If you are currently sitting in the wreckage of a recent setback and second-guessing your every move, this conversation is your invitation to put down the heavy labor, return to your own bones, and remember that you are allowed to be human. Key Topics Covered The "Should" Spiral: How we weaponize expectations against ourselves after a setback and drive a wedge into our own self-trust. The Trap of Doing vs. Being: Exposing the frantic urge to over-research, seek validation, and prove ourselves to the world instead of trusting the brilliance already within us. Intuition as an Internal Power: Grounding ourselves in the true definition of intuition—the natural ability to know something without needing external proof or evidence. Healing the Little Girl Within: Why rebuilding trust starts with comforting the inner child who learned at a young age to reject her own body's wisdom. Lessons over Failure: Shifting our perspective so that mistakes become an anchor for deeper wisdom rather than a reason to abandon ourselves. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Now, more than ever, is the right time for you to be thinking about yourself. If you are a Black woman in your 40s, 50s, 60s, or beyond, chances are you have spent decades as a caregiver. Whether you are managing children, siblings, grandchildren, or aging parents, you might be at a point where something simply has to give. If you notice that you are constantly exhausted and your health is feeling iffy, it is time to look in the mirror and ask a real question: What is your endgame? In this intimate solo episode, I am sharing some major shifts happening in my own life. I recently made the decision to scale back my hours at work to 24 hours a week because my body was flat-out rejecting a grueling schedule. Our energy is finite, and pushing through back spasms and exhaustion just to survive in a system that does not prioritize our wellness is no longer an option. I am also talking about the necessity of stepping back from mothering our adult children. I share a recent story about my daughter getting her hair braided that reminded me that she is a grown woman with her own job and her own money. When we step back, we allow our children to grow into who they are meant to be, and we reclaim valuable time for our own rest, reflection, and restoration. Finally, I am diving into why the environment we live in makes holistic health so difficult for Black women, and why I am actively planning a personal exit strategy (part of MY endgamge) to move overseas by 2028. Self-care requires extensive, consistent dedication, and it is time to stop putting your life on hold. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever looked at your life and realized things are not going the way you initially designed or imagined? You’re making the changes, you’re being intentional, you’re doing the work—but that "one great thing" you had your heart set on just didn't pan out. In this intimate solo episode I am reminding you that there is something amazing (many somethings in fact) out there for you even if your "one great thing" slipped out of reach. We often tie our worth to a specific outcome, believing that if we just get that one thing, everything will be perfect and we’ll finally be "good enough." But what if that disappointment is actually a mirror? In This Episode, We Cover: The "One Great Thing" Trap: Why we mistakenly give external milestones the power to validate our entire existence. Sitting in the Lane: The radical act of allowing yourself to feel disappointment without rushing to fix it or force a pivot. Who Are You Becoming? Shifting the focus from what you can get to who you are growing into while you wait. Key Takeaways to Carry With You: "Sometimes we have to just sit in that initial lane of disappointment for the things that we don't get, that we had our heart set on. That doesn't mean that goodness is not for you. It just means that it's gonna look different than what you imagine." "Sometimes there's a lesson in the waiting. And it's not so much about what you can get, but about who you are becoming or who you are growing into as you wait." Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today I am in conversation with Tara Pringle Jefferson, Author of Bloom How You Must: A Black Woman’s Guide to Self-Care and Generational Healing. Tara is the founder of The Self Care Suite, a digital wellness community for Black women. Over the last decade, she has brought her wellness expertise to corporate audiences including WW, SiriusXM, Wayfair, and Priceline. During our time together we talk about generational healing for Black women and the ways we are currently growing and blooming in sptie of what we (as Black women) have endured for decades. To learn more about Tara please check her out here: instagram.com/wherewomenbloom facebook.com/wherewomenbloom Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever caught yourself fighting for a situation you already know you don't want because it shrinks you? In this episode, I’m sharing a moment of clarity I had after spending half an hour chasing down someone in a store to inquire about a job. It will make sense when you hit "play" and have a listen. We try so hard to make an uncomfortable situation comfortable just because it feels safe. We look for little things, like “well, at least it’s closer to home,” to justify staying on autopilot. But true liberation means you stop fighting for the bare minimum. It means you stop settling for a minute amount of money, space, love, and you actually start allowing the alignment of your true vision (which for me is working less, earning more, and pouring into my purpose). What We’re Unpacking In This Episode: Seeking Derailment vs. Allowing Alignment: What it looks like when you are fighting, inquiring over and over, and pushing for full-time hours in a place that shrinks you, instead of allowing the space to do things that actually align with your vision. Making the Uncomfortable Comfortable: How we look for little things to make a limiting situation feel okay, and how that comfort keeps us limited and stuck on autopilot. The Bare Minimum Trap: The moment you tell yourself that all of your wants, your needs, and your hopes don't matter as long as the basics are taken care of and a little bit of money is coming in. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I'm back behind the mic and dropping some real talk about what happens when life forces you to wake up from autopilot. This week, I’m sharing the raw reality of working a labor-intensive retail job at 50, dealing with the daily grind of pushing carts, and how a repetitive question from an older gentleman in the store literally stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to look at how I'm navigating my life. Spoiler alert: You have permission to take control of your own damn life. True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing wellness or waiting until your circumstances are perfect to claim your space. It’s about standing squarely in a hard season, looking at your life, and choosing your power anyway. Lean in as we untangle what it means to stop living on autopilot and step into the driver's seat of your own liberation. What We’re Unpacking In This Episode: The Retail Reality Check: The logistics of being back in the retail trenches in decade number five, the physical toll of pushing carts, and navigating a season that feels heavy and labor-intensive. The Pusher vs. The Driver: The exact moment a daily question from a retail customer bypassed my ears and hit my understanding, sparking a deep revelation about survival mode vs. conscious sovereignty. The Anatomy of Autopilot: Breaking down how trauma, people-pleasing, and public validation trick us into letting life just "happen" to us, instead of mapping out our own master blueprint. The Power of Stillness: Why reclaiming your life requires getting quiet, turning off the noise and distractions, and allowing what’s beneath the surface to bubble up so you can figure out what you actually want. Getting Sick of Your Own Sh*t: A real-talk reality check on how we get comfortable in our excuses, make them our identity, and why hitting a wall with your own patterns is often the exact catalyst needed for true healing. The Reclaiming of Your Power: Why you have a right to hold the map, choose your destination, change your mind, and fully embrace every single gift and talent inside of you before you leave this earth. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

After an extended hiatus, I'm back behind the mic!! I’m sharing the raw reality of navigating a major life transition at 50, dealing with the structural games of the "outside world," and wrestling with the deeply colonized fear that unless you are young, trendy, and constantly producing, your voice doesn't matter. Spoiler alert: It does matter. True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing wellness or waiting until your life is perfectly wrapped in a bow to claim your space. It’s about standing squarely in your "unknown" and choosing your purpose anyway. Lean in as we untangle what it means to practice liberation in real-time, right from the trenches. What We’re Unpacking In This Episode: The Reality of the Hiatus: Why I went silent for two months, and the vulnerability of questioning my validity in a digital age obsessed with youth and algorithms. "Outside is Still Ghetto": The logistics of taking a retail job for stability, navigating spaces that treat you like a number, and the sovereign act of collecting a paycheck without giving away your soul. The Universal Struggle for Meaning: Why checking external boxes will never fill an internal void, and how to find your anchor when your surroundings feel sparse or uncertain. The Reclaiming at 50: Why my mission to provide a space of encouragement and liberation for Black women doesn't pause just because I'm figuring out my own next steps. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Let's talk a little about when you are in a season that requires you to un-labor a bit and stop grinding. I believe that Black women deserve more ease and to receive income and abundance with ease, myself included, so there will be times that we are required to un-labor and allow God to step in and provide miracles. This is counterintuitive to the lessons we learned that told us that in order to be successful, wealthy, even safe, we must labor in all ways and all the time. Hit "play" on this episode and lt's unpack things a little bit. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Valentine's Day was just a few days ago, but today we’re talking about the side of love we rarely discuss: the grace of letting go. Inspired by a surprising lesson from Mr. Rogers, this episode explores why we often keep pouring our "salt"—our energy, labor, and essence—into relationships that are no longer viable. Let's talk about the "Fixer" trap, the difference between a rough patch and a dead one, and how to reclaim your sweetness by choosing to stop performing CPR on a "dead fish". Ways to support me and the podcast: Buy me a coffee or even a book. Cashapp and Venmo are @browngirlselfcare (thank you!!) Leave a message on Spotify or rating and review on iTunes (thank you!!) Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Late in 2025 one of my distractions, one that I wasn't aware of for a while, was fear. I was afraid that If I didn't earn income or receive it in a certain way, I wasn't doing things "right." This ended up putting me into a bit of freeze mode and if you've ever experienced freeze mode you know how much that feels like being stuck in time. In todays episode, let's talk a bit about distractions and how they might show up in your life and put a halt on living the life you deserve. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey, hey! Got a great question for you today straight from the community. How can we practice self-care during this time of civil unrest, ICE and fascism. This episode is not all inclusive. My hope is that it allows room for you to reflect on what is important to you. As mentioned in the episode, know your rights. ICE AGENTS ARE NOT POLICE OFFICERS though Police Officers may or may not accompany them. Here are some helpful links. Please do your due diligence: https://naacp.org/resources/know-your-rights-immigration https://www.reddit.com/r/TwinCities/comments/1qb84vt/what_to_do_if_ice_stops_you_an_attorney_answers/ Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode I’m talking about something that’s deeply personal yet universally human: the courage to share your truth. Sometimes the weight we carry, like shame, fear, embarrassment, or unspoken experiences, can hold us back from living fully. Sharing your truth doesn’t have to be dramatic or performative, it is about creating space to release, reflect, and heal. We’re talking about: Why holding onto your truth can feel like survival but may also block your growth The importance of having a supportive inner circle and trustworthy allies Ways to safely share your truth including journaling, therapy, creative expression, or just showing up authentically How black women, historically and culturally, have had to mask their truths and why reclaiming space to be fully human is an act of self-care Navigating the highs and lows, the valleys and peaks, of life while honoring your own journey This episode is an invitation to let go of the pressure to be perfect, to stop bottling things up for survival, and to explore ways to express yourself safely and honestly. Reflection Prompts What truth have you been holding onto that needs space to be expressed Who in your life can you trust to honor your truth without judgment What small, safe step can you take this week to release or express what’s been bottled up Soul-Care Circle Invitation ✨ Soul-Care Circle: Intentional Vision Board Creating ✨ If you’d like to explore your intentions for 2026 in community, I’m hosting a virtual Soul-Care Circle where we’ll gather to reflect, connect, and create vision/intention boards that go beyond goals—including joy, safety, support, movement, healing, and alignment. Date and Time: January 31, 2026 (9am-11am Central) Where: Zoom Cost: Donation-based (any amount) This is a cozy, judgment-free space to slow down, check in with yourself, and intentionally call in the energy you want to carry this year. How to Join Send your donation via: Cash App: @browngirlselfcare Venmo: @browngirlselfcare 👉 Important: Please include your email address and “for Soul-Care Circle” in the note so I can send you the Zoom link. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this first episode of the year, I’m sharing something that may not matter to anyone else on the planet and how it reminded me that self-care isn’t always loud, aesthetic, or dramatic. Sometimes self-care looks like claiming space. Sometimes it looks like taking one small step toward a vision you don’t need to explain to anyone else. We’re talking about: Why small beginnings matter (especially in January) Creating physical, emotional, and energetic space as a form of self-care Letting intentions unfold without rushing or pressure How honoring what feels meaningful to you is an act of self-love This episode is an invitation to start the year gently, intentionally, and on your own terms. Reflection Prompts What’s one small step you can take this year that feels big for you? What kind of space do you want to claim or protect in 2026? Where can you move with intention instead of urgency? Soul-Care Circle Invitation ✨ Soul-Care Circle: Intentional Vision Board Creating ✨ If you’d like to explore your intentions for 2026 in community, I’m hosting a virtual Soul-Care Circle where we’ll gather to reflect, connect, and create vision/intention boards that go beyond goals—including joy, safety, support, movement, healing, and alignment. Date: January 31, 2026 Where: Zoom Cost: Donation-based (any amount) This is a cozy, judgment-free space to slow down, check in with yourself, and intentionally call in the energy you want to carry this year. How to Join Send your donation via: Cash App: @browngirlselfcare Venmo: @browngirlselfcare 👉 Important: Please include your email address and “for Soul-Care Circle” in the note so I can send you the Zoom link. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The B.E.I.N.G. Space reopens January 3rd, 2026 Welcome to the final episode of our end-of-year series! I am wrapping up our conversation on self-recovery and boundaries by offering a framework for leaving 2025 behind and crafting a intentional, liberated blueprint for 2026. The steps are: Honor the release that needs to happen Your goals don't need to be about fixing your perceived flaws or being hypercritical of yourself. Think about setting intentions instead Be sure to include community building in your plans for 2026 I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode as well as some of your intentions for 2026. If you share this episode or your intentions on social, be sure to tag me. If you are listening on iTunes or Spotify please leave a rating and review pretty please :) Also, if you are making some changes in 2026 and need clarity and support as you boldly bloom, book some time on my calenedar here: The B.E.I.N.G. Space I will be back "in office" January 3rd. See you in 2026!!!! Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Following last week’s episode on being your authentic self, today we are diving into the challenging but essential work of communicating new, radical boundaries. This is all about preparing yourself for a truly authentic 2026 where you are free to be yourself. In this episode i'll be sharing: how boundaries are liberation the importance of staying as cool as a cucumber when expressing your boundaries the necessity of not only expressing the. boundary but having a consequence Resources/Links: In case you missed it, here is last weeks episode - December Is The Best Month To Release The "Fake" and Find Your Real Self Need clarity in your journey of blooming? Book a BEING Session with me here! Join me on Zoom on December 17th right here - BGSC Soul-Care Circle Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The work discussed in this episode, as we enter the final days of 2025, is not just about ending the year on a high. What I feel it is, is an opportunity to see 2026 as the year your authentic self is non-negotiable. In this episode we are talking about self-care through the lens of transition, a fresh start, into the new year. In this episode let's explore: Winter as the Shedding Season: Using the end of 2025 as a time to identify and release the societal expectations and masks that stifle our authentic selves. Decolonizing Your Worth: Challenging narratives of strength and productivity to embrace softness, vulnerability, and rest. Returning to Your Roots: The importance of reconnecting with hobbies, creativity, and ancestral wisdom that spark your mind, heart, and spirit. Resources and links: Join me on December 17th for Soul-Care Circle. Click here to register on Zoom Share your story! What are you shedding this season? Tag @browngirlselfcare on social after listening today and let me know. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I'm getting honest about the moments when your spirit is no longer whispering, but instead she’s tapping you on the shoulder, side-eyeing you, and begging you to just sit down somewhere. As Black women, we’re praised for pushing through, carrying everything, and keeping it all together. But this season is about something different: honoring your humanity, choosing ease, and learning to pause before life forces you to. We’ll explore the 5 signs that show up when you’re out of alignment: when you’re scattered instead of centered drained instead of nourished ✨eactive instead of peaceful doubting instead of grounded and disconnected instead of intuitive Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hello Beautiful Black Woman! In this (rewind) episode I'm sharing five ways that show me the healing work we are doing is actually making a difference. This includes: Understanding that there will still be hard things to process emotionally Understanding my toxic patterns and behaviors Not trying to change people but instead focusing on me Realizing that I can choose what I do for healing Listen in to todays episode and be sure to write down the affirmation that I provide at the end. If you'd like to support the podcast be sure to rate and review where ever you are listening or/and share this episode on social media. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Overconsumerism this holiday season will not save us. Many of us want to "keep up with the Jones'" when they likely are living check to check themselves. Buying with intention versus buying to people please and prove your worth are different energies. Let's have a quick chat about this. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey, hey! In this episode I'm sharing part of a recent video I created. In It I talked about the idea of the American dream. By those standards, this vision of success we've been told to strive for, I am failing because my life doesn't align, and that's ok! Listen in for more Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you are in need of a reminder to slow down, be present and not feel pressured to buy/have "all the things", this episode is definitely for you! Recently, i watched a movie on Hulu called "Perfect Days" about a toilet cleaner in Japan. I thought it would be about his job (and how could that even be exciting??) but it was about much, much more. I'm sharing six takeaways that will help you experience your own "perfect" days, ones where you are more grounded and present, versus worrying about the accumulation or use of the latest and greatest stuff. As mentioned, if you'd like to spend some one on one time with me, getting your self-care plan in order, you can connect with me here: BEING w/ Bre Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode, what I'm doing for the next 30 days is going to sound crazy. I get it. It needs to be done though because I'm locking in on how I'm blooming versus worrying about laboring to earn money. In our culture 9-5'ing/grinding is where our energy primarily goes and if there is anything left we do a little tending to ourselves. I'm flipping the narrative for the next 30 days and making self-care the primary and working secondary. Listen in to learn more about the framework I'll be using. Also, feel free to join me or watch on my Youtube channel and let me know your thoughts! Youtube - @browngirlselfcare Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dear Black women, especially those of us over 40 years old, now is your time (and mine) to get "unstuck." Let's stop waiting around for something magical to happen in order for us to do WHATEVER it is we want to do in this season. This episode is straight from my Youtube Live. Be sure to subscribe there so you can see my beautiful face :). Here is the link Let me know what you thought about todays episode. What is something you've been waiting for? What are you being called to do? Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

There is a bit of cussery in this episode, heads up. I’m in my 50s and haven’t worked a traditional job in six years. In this episode, I’m sharing how I walked away from my job, the ways I’ve sustained myself, and what rebuilding my dream life actually looks like. I talk about: Why I quit my job and what led up to it How I kept myself afloat through moving, using my 401k, podcasting, freelancing, and building Brown Girl Self-Care offerings The mistakes and challenges I faced along the way — survival mode, giving too much away for free, buying things I didn’t need, people-pleasing, and caring too much about what others think How I’m actively rebuilding my life now, including paying off debt, eating healthier, practicing yoga, baking bread, keeping my space calm, and prioritizing what truly matters My vision for the future — from living on land with a sister friend, buying an RV, traveling, and building a life where I’m healthier, stronger, and freer The hard truth about being honest with yourself and getting tired of your own mess This is a raw and real conversation about choosing yourself, starting over, and proving that even after setbacks, you can still create a beautiful life. Mentioned in episode: Ninja Foodi Airfryer that I use several times a week The above is an Amazon affiliate link which means I may earn a small amount of money if you click the link/make a purchase. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I tried recording this episode on Sunday and when I went to upload it, there was no audio. So I decided to hop onto Youtube Live on Monday morning and record it there. *Trigger Warning* In todays episode I'll be sharing about a young Black woman who unfortunately took her own life. The point of the share is to not only say her name, but to reinforce the idea of Black women staying Black Woman centered. No one cares about Black women the way that Black women do. We need each other. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I want to preface this episode with a couple of things: #1 – Extreme self-care isn’t about shock value. It’s about survival, liberation, and choosing yourself when everything around you says don’t. #2 – The choices I’m sharing in this episode may feel uncomfortable, even unthinkable, because Black women are socialized to endure instead of disrupt. But these choices are valid. They are powerful. And they are yours to claim. In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast, I’m talking about five extreme self-care moves that many of us are told we can’t choose: Cutting off a parent Declining the caregiver role Choosing not to have children Leaving the traditional church Investing in yourself first To live well we sometimes have to be extreme or disrupt the status quo. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Leave a comment on Spotify. Share this episode and tag me on social. Email me at connect@browngirlselfcare.com Offerings *FREE Resource* 5 Ways For Black Women To Practice Taking Up Space Ready for deeper support? Book a BEING session and let’s rebuild routines that actually work for your life. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I want to preface this episode with a couple of things: #1 - You don't owe the world "your pretty" #2 - The self-care in this episode is less about performance and more about affirming your worth, reminding yourself of who you are and feeling great about yourself, FOR YOU In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast, I'm giving you five simple beauty practices that serve as daily reminders of self-worth and identity. These are not about chasing trends or fitting into outside standards. It's about choosing rituals that ground you, feel authentic, and help you move through life's transitions with confidence and more self-love. Offerings Ready for deeper support? Book a BEING session and let’s rebuild routines that actually work for your life. Not ready for a session yet? Download my free Anti-Burnout Guide here and start making small shifts today. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

My sleep has been wrecked since I moved. Last year I had the perfect setup: a bed that supported me, a routine that worked, and deep, consistent rest. Now? I’m on a futon, waking up at 4 a.m. to take my daughter to work, and dragging through the day. n this episode I'm sharing: Why fall naturally shifts your body’s sleep rhythm (and how to work with it) The basics I’m returning to: earlier bedtimes, wind-down rituals, and morning light Tangible adjustments that help: showers or baths at night, better pillows, and bedding that supports you The tools I’m using to stay accountable Why great sleep is not a luxury for Black women, but a necessity If your sleep has been off, you’ll leave this episode with practical ways to reset and reclaim real rest this season. Offerings Ready for deeper support? Book a BEING session and let’s rebuild routines that actually work for your life. Not ready for a session yet? Download my free Anti-Burnout Guide here and start making small shifts today. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week I turn 50. Instead of balloons or cake, I’m marking this milestone by sharing five truths that feel carved into me now. Call it my 5 for 50. These are the lessons I’m carrying into this next decade—about boundaries, embodiment, reciprocity, friendship, and trusting the timing of my life. If you’re in your 40s, 50s, 60s, I hope you hear yourself in these truths. And if you’re younger, I hope you take them as reminders to claim your life sooner rather than later. In this episode I share: Why I will no longer overexplain myself How my body, not the clock, sets the pace for my life The line I’ve drawn around reciprocity in relationships and work The honest truth about not knowing how to be a good friend until later in life Why I am no longer comparing my timeline to anyone else’s Mentioned in this episode: Book a B.E.I.N.G. Session Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Boundaries don’t always look like cutting people off or quitting jobs. The ones that actually keep you from burning out are the daily boundaries — the small choices that say: my time, my body, and my energy belong to me. In this episode, I’m breaking down five daily boundaries that protect your sanity: Not answering texts right away Saying “I can’t talk right now” Blocking off the first 30 minutes of your morning Leaving when you’re ready Refusing to explain your “no” These may look simple, but they’re radical. Because every time a Black woman says no to urgency, over-functioning, or people-pleasing, she’s also saying no to the systems that demand her exhaustion. Listen in if you’re ready to stop being “on call” for the world and start saving your energy for yourself. Book a B.E.I.N.G. self-care session with me Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We are out here building businesses, doing side gigs, dreaming about walking in our purpose, right? Yes! As we do this, there may be a pull for you to get out there and showboat just how well you are doing by flaunting your income while encouraging others to quit their job and "get like you." This episode is a reminder that this isn't the way to grow. There will be ups and downs in your entrepreneurial journey. Don't let the "highs" fool you into thinking you need to flaunt because things can change very quickly. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I’m sharing what it looked like to move from bracing for the worst to making space for the best. This shift didn’t happen overnight, but it’s changed how I move through life, how I feel in my body, and how I trust myself. We talk about: The moment I realized my trust was starting to change How my nervous system used to feel vs. how it feels now Why trust takes time to rebuild Also, as mentioned: BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is where we sit together and put out the fires—whether it’s burnout from your job, the weight of family dynamics, being the go-to for everyone in your circle, community or church obligations, caregiving without support, or constantly feeling like you have to be the strong one—so you can reset and move forward lighter. You’ll leave with clarity and steps you can actually use right now. If you want to go deeper, we can work through the full BEING framework together. Book your session here. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

So many of us are walking around with an invisible contract we never agreed to—but we’re still out here living by it. It's the Superwoman Contract. In this episode, I’m naming what it is, where it comes from, how it keeps us stuck, and what it costs us to keep performing strength. We talk about: What the Superwoman Contract actually is Why we feel obligated to carry so much How this “strength” is expensive What it could look like to void the contract and choose something else Mentioned in this episode: ➡️ BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is support for Black women who are navigating reinvention, self-trust, and soft power after survival. If you’ve been carrying it all, this is your space to finally set it down. Book your session today. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I'm turning 50 soon, and that shift is showing up everywhere. That includes Brown Girl Self-Care. In this episode, I’m sharing why Brown Girl Self-Care is now centering Black women in our 40s, 50s, 60s, and 70s. There needs to be wellness and self-care conversations for Black women who have entered middle-age. That is what this is. We talk about: Why most wellness content doesn’t hit for us anymore What self-care meant before vs. what it means now The transitions we’re moving through in midlife Why this shift is necessary—not just for me, but for us Mentioned in this episode: ➡️ BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is support for Black women who are navigating reinvention, self-trust, and soft power after survival. Price increases in a few days—book now to lock in the current rate. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy